Dating he calls last minute
Much like people who keep emphasising how ‘honest’ or ‘nice’ they are, suffer with Those Who Doth Protest Too Much, when someone goes to the trouble of telling you that they’re spontaneous, you’re dealing with a Future Avoider that has basic One of my ex’s wasn’t keen on ‘making plans’, often using the phrase “flying by the seat of my pants.” Most weekends I’d be ‘summoned’ after he’d decided what he wanted to do, or be subjected to having to listen to him whining about finding something to do that ticked his ‘spontaneous’ boxes. So I did the smart thing – I went ahead and made my own plans.
If I was around and I wanted to go, I’d meet him, but if not, hey ho – you really all that exciting.
I considered keeping my Saturday evening open in the hope I would go out with him, but he hadn’t locked me down, so that’s why I went ahead and make plans.
Does mirroring imply keeping myself available so a guy can ask me out up until the day before the date?
So, should I have made myself more available to him?
Spontaneous also doesn’t look like: You haven’t heard from them for several days, a week, a few weeks, or even months and then a text comes through “Hey…hope you’re well. ” And then after you spend time together, you don’t hear from them again for another several days/weeks/months until the next textvite comes through. You can be damn sure that it also doesn’t sound like a call after dark asking whether they can ‘come over’ – that’s a booty call.